Hi guys thanks for coming to the site. The subject here is relationships and I will be posting a series of short posts on this matter. I do not aim to cause any offence and if any is caused as a result of relaying my experiences or generalising in order to make a point I apologize in advance. The aim is for me to learn from you and hopefully vice versa. I respect the opinion of my audience greatly so I would be honoured if you could comment on the posts you read as the feedback is vital for me going forwards.
There has been a uproar of angst towards Steve Harvey author of, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. Men have said, “His man card should be revoked for not respecting the game” but has he really sold out his fellow man? I of course defer to your opinion on the situation but before I ask you to make up your mind lets examine a few topics.
We (men) often joke that it is very simple we want food, no drama, good sex and total control of the television when sports are on. For some men this is all that is needed and if you are a single lady it is best to find out what he likes early on before you find yourself needing to read Steve’s book after arguing about which channel the TV should be on. What I find a lot of women either are ignorant to or simply ignore is that men have feelings too. Quite often we keep our insecurities to ourselves to avoid the perception of weakness. We are unhappy sometimes too about where we are financially or the career we choose even things such as not starting a family yet and we have in cases been socialised to suck it up and ‘Grin and bare it’. Personally I grew up around “Manly” men they were bred winners, heavy drinkers and had lots of children. That was the list of requirements for being a man back then. Some didn’t even look after their own children they had them and moved on to the next. The same children almost always grew up to repeat the cycle. So a lot of us grew up in broken homes and having never witnessed a relationship between a man and woman growing up happen to be learning on the fly as it were. Which is why some men immediately switch off the moment an argument starts. They have either seen it far too often growing up or not at all either way it is something which is almost never discussed with the significant other. Or is it? How many of you guys have shared experiences from growing up with your partner? Ladies how many of you know all about your partners childhood? I suppose a more important question is if he told you all about his past would it help you understand him?