Double Standards and Why They Are Undermining Society
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What Are Double Standards?
I know what you’re thinking; it’s when representatives of two royal houses bearing their respective standards are in close proximity to each other. That was a solid attempt and I applaud you! Better than I could’ve ever come up with on my own! Bravo!
Double standards occur when a set of rules/norms/behaviour is accepted as proper/allowed/correct in most circumstances. In turn these very same actions are seen as improper/disallowed/incorrect when used by others. For instance and I apologise in advance if this is a subpar example, someone using a handshake to seal a deal may be seen as binding by the great majority of people outside the legal community. However, if there is no contract with the terms agreed on paper, it could be seen as naive, amateur, improper and possibly unenforceable depending on the scenario.
Okay, that was a little foggy, let’s do better. In the world of sport, if an athlete exploits the ‘unwritten’ rules of the game to their advantage it could, and most likely would, be seen as cunning/quick-thinking/will to win or plain old gamesmanship if the player is liked/respected. However, if the same ploy is used by a disliked or unflavoured athlete, the narrative becomes that they are bringing the game/sport into disrepute, they are dishonest or plain old cheating. That is a double standard! I think that was better explained. In my defence, I was beta testing before. Warming up for the live show if you like!
Other Situations Where Double Standards Occur?
The somewhat obvious ones are children mirroring the behaviour of parents. You can’t swear 24-7 and get mad if your child lets rip somewhere like at school. Sure it’s not right and it may be somewhat embarrassing but nonetheless it’s a double standard. Male vs Female, if one behaves in a way socially acceptable to all and the other does exactly the same and gets a totally different reaction, you guessed it; double standard. Although to be perfectly honest, if groups of men begin taking group toilet selfies pulling a pout face on a night out, I’m not defending them! EVER!
Why Are You Talking About This Anyway?
Someone has to! I think we have lost the ability as a society to look at things objectively and with real fairness. Everyone is too busy looking for the angle that fits their own point of view, instead, all we end up with, is cross shouting and a real bank of resentment constantly building up interest.
In my own experiences with the internet and social media especially, there is a real alarming amount of unnecessary, or should I say unhelpful sensitivity that gets in the way of finding solutions. Everyone is up in arms about something, instead of finding out where the common ground is and how to prevent further escalation. ‘Where do we start?’ is almost exclusively replaced with ‘Ooh get em!’. We can never tell lapse in judgement from real intent to cause harm/humiliation/defraud etc. anymore because we don’t dig deep enough as a society. We go straight to outrage and ‘CANCELLING’. How does that solve anything?
A: It doesn’t but it feels great!
JM: Then you wonder why everyone throws out these token apologies. It’s because they allow those harping on to feel like they’ve been forced into submission. Guess what? It’s a survival tactic! You win the battle in your minds while the war wages on with lessons on conduct safely integrated to form a better antagonist…
What Can You Do?
WE have to do better than this! Me, you, your friends, family and even the people who hate us!
All I see throughout society are new factions. In America Republican vs Democrat is now even further sub categorised into racial sensibilities, able bodied vs disabled, educated vs ignorant etc. It really ought to have a lesser bearing on politics, but there you are.
Athlete vs Media. You’re both apart of the same business. It’s supposed to be about global impact and spreading messages which ought to always be about inspirational/motivational/odds defying greatness and connection with something bigger. Talk show host vs Actor/Musician/Reality TV Stars. Again you need each other. Why are you constantly infighting over petty squabbles that don’t deserve to see the light of day? Female vs Female on who is doing it the right/best/purest way. Why undermine what is already a hard journey by trying to destroy your only peers? There has to be common ground between you; help each not fight each other! Open that lane wide enough for others to get on!
Why is it taking someone without the platform and access to the resources you take for granted to be able to see the bigger picture? You want to be seen as leaders then LEAD! At the moment all roads lead to a massive pile of shaving cream…
What About That Moment?
Which one specifically? Cardi and Nicki? Serena and the Umpire? Naomi and the Crowd? I’m losing track here! Everyone is going at someone for something or the other.
Look I try to stay away from talking about people’s mind and heart. Some officials in sports are just irritants. They want so badly to be the centre of attention. This is nothing new and yes, while it is frustrating if you’re favourite is at the receiving end of it, pointing to anything other than the character on display is problematic.
This particular official seemingly wants to be seen and remembered. Man, woman or child I doubt you get a different personality out of him. The idea of a back and forth not usually escalating that far that quickly is valid! The minute you lean over into other intangible arguments is when a lot of people lose the ability to reason properly. Like I mentioned earlier, they find the angle that applies to them and it’s a wrap for pragmatism. He is a quick off the draw official, that is all it is for me.
Could he have been better? Obviously in a grand slam final!
As for two female rappers warring? When it’s the guys it’s beef and rivalry. Now it’s someone being a bully/hoodrat and the other being classy/dignified etc. Go away! Huge red flag of a double standard. Fans of rap love and welcome beef, we (I’m including myself if that’s okay) just don’t want it spilling into violence that costs other people. Certain things are off limits, but in lyrical terms there are no rules of engagement. Putting hands on each other is just not smart legally. That’s not somewhere you can go, and most people recognise that, so why don’t you? There is no female MC code different to the male, if you rap you know what can come your way if your energy is off or people sense you’re not where you are by merit.
The above are general observations I am not disparaging anyone. I am just saying what usually instigates beef is a high level of familiarity. Both parties knowing each other well, or knowing each others processes/potential/discography well enough for there to be conflict. Then when you add someone giving out the wrong soundbite; it’s flame on!
How Do We Solve Double Standards?
Thanks for reminding me what we’re here for (double standards) , I got distracted for a moment!
It’s simple in my eyes, but in practice it may be difficult for some to make the mental transition. Here it is! It’s either a standard for all or there is no standard! The moment you can reconcile with this line of thinking, all potential for double standards becomes near enough obsolete. Not all that radical I know, but if you wouldn’t like something for yourself then don’t do it to others! If you have done or witnessed someone doing it without quarrel, then the next time it’s done to you, chalk it up to karma instead of fussing. If you now realise that you have been wrong in your deportment, apologise or make amends going forwards. Reverse the trend if it’s something you’ve implemented on a wide scale.
No one is perfect and we all irritate someone somewhere, that’s just life. What we are definitely in control of, is taking responsibility or thinking things through instead of doubling down (no pun intended). Try to leave the world a little better than when you came into it. It’s not that big of a deal once we all reconnect with the idea of bettering the world instead of dividing it.
Thank You For Sitting Through This
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